Today’s society is mean to mothers. Plain and simple. Everyone lives in their own little world. It’s a sad culture that’s been created.
My High School Reunion
I had a lot of friends in high school, some close and some not, and of those friends, there are only two that I’m aware of that have children. And, to be honest I’m not even 100% sure they have kids as I’ve only seen pictures of them with kids.
At my 10-year reunion (I graduated 25 years ago) I was 6 months pregnant with #6. I definitely stood out as there was only one other ‘student’ there that had children. He was helping me make up for our classmates ‘lacking’ as his wife was expecting #4.
Everyone else was still in high school mode and was playing. Literally. Pictures of them dancing, living life on the beach, parties, etc. were in the reunion book. It was sad because they were totally missing the point of life and what was truly important.
The MC just snickered at me, raised his glass towards me, and said to keep having babies for them. For real. I just sat there and thought about how I needed to have children just to help fix the society we and our parents had created.
Fast forward a couple of babies, I was expecting again (surprise!).
I was excited but nervous to share it with some of my family as they have tended to roll their eyes at me in the past (are you done yet?!?).
The one family member in particular, when he found out I was expecting just rolled his eyes and sighed.
That was it for me. I was done dealing with his nasty attitude.
I left and didn’t see him for probably close to two years. The next time I saw him I had another baby in my arms that he had zero idea was coming into existence. I could see in his eyes and his expression that he was hurt, but you know what?
I was done thinking about everyone else’s feelings. I had this little baby to think about and love. This baby needed me WAY MORE than my grown family member would ever need me.
And, the amazing thing, is after that situation happened he never made a nasty comment or sigh at me again (at least about having children). When he sees them he hugs the children and tells them that he loves them.
And, I’m still having children.
Our relationship isn’t perfect by any means but he knows where I stand and that his bad attitude isn’t going to change the way I live my life.
So, I guess, long story short, I had to get a thick skin. I’ve learned to stop caring about what people think (read another post about that here).
God’s opinion is all that matters!
To raise multiple children in today’s anti-family society Mom’s need to change their outlook. We need thick skin towards the things (and people) of this world and to care only for that which God cares for.
As mothers, we are following a higher calling. God and our families become the focus of our lives, not the world.
Number one, we need to trust in God. Everything we do should be to please Him.
In my opinion, if we are pleasing the world then we are doing something wrong. This world is not of God so why try to make it happy?
My Main Point Of All This
I just want to tell you that you are doing a good job. We never hear this in our world so I just want you to hear it from me. Continue to love God and your babies. God will take care of the rest. <3
Thank you! I am so baffled by everyone’s lack of interest in children and having children. I encounter people from my past and realize they have no interest in the things I’m interested in. They are over 40 and still partying (like you mentioned), and it makes me sad that so many are missing out on God’s blessing of having a family!
I’m glad there are still a few of us moms left. <3
I’m 24 and only on number two, but I know I want a large family! None of my friends understand why! As soon as you start seeing children as blessings instead of burdens, you just want more. It’s impossible to understand until you have that paradigm shift, I think.
I enjoy your blog
Having the proper mindset is so important. Our society sees children as a burden and teaches this to anyone that will listen. I know very few people that appreciate children for the blessings that they are. Maybe if enough people pray more will be open to children, have that paradigm shift, and see how wonderful they are!
And, thank you! <3
Thank you I have 5 #6 on the way and honestly a little anxious about telling people but I really want 8 in total time will tell though such a blessing
Don’t be anxious! Share your blessing with those that will rejoice with you. Congratulations!! <3 <3 <3
Apolonia Sanchez says
I just had #10, and my husband said this is it. We are beyond bless, and excited. I needed to get this email. Thank you
I just found your blog. Im 23 and on my second child and I have people in my life who are similar– telling my husband to get a vasetecomy and bugging us to stop having children. With two sometimes I feel super overwhelmed but I love my children and we are open to life. It’s so sad how normalized it is to be anti child